Just Why?

Why? This question has been on my mind all day. Why do people who don't need or deserve someones help receive it? Why is it when a good, decent person needs help no one is there to help them? Or better yet why don't people feel inclined to help other people in today's society?

Take for example things that you see everyday. I've seen people cut each other off on streets, scream at each other when they don't get what they want at a store, pass by people that are broken down on the side of the road, and think that they are actually holier than God himself!

So what happened to the world? With so much negativity and selfishness running rampant I'm surprised there's still even a world at all. But, then again there are people in the world who are so selfless and care only about the well being of others. I like to believe that I'm the second one. Even though I have had my moment's of selfishness I still care more about the people around me than I do about myself.

I decided that maybe it's time people of the world started acting more like the second choice than the first. I came up with a short list that everyone could do that might just have a small impact on the way people react and act towards you. Check it out:

1.) SMILE! 
Always try to have a smile on your face. I was told by classmates that my smile was contagious in high school.

2.) STAY POSITIVE! 
Don't fret about the small things. Try to be as optimistic as possible.

3.) SHOW RESPECT! 
Don't do or say things to others that you wouldn't like done in return to you.

4.) BE NICE! 
When all else fails my mom told me "Kill 'em with kindness" (it always works).

I hope each and everyone of you have a great rest of the week and try to do at least one of the things on the list above. You never know just how much an act of kindness really means to someone until you go and do it!

Just One Of Those Days

I honestly thought that today was going to be a bad day. I mean I woke up from this crazy nightmare that involved zombie kittens. Yes, you read that correctly zombie kittens. I guess no more watching The Walking Dead and playing with the cats before bed...lol. But for some reason this day has been anything but that.

My house has managed to stay clean for most of the day, besides the cat toys here and there on the floor. My husband and I haven't argued or been angry with each other, so that's awesome (I love days like that)! I got to spend a little time with my mom and now I just found out that my brother got a new truck, so I'm really happy for him.

I know that by the time I post this blog it'll only be noon and there are still plenty more hours in the day that something could go wrong, but I'm not gonna think like that. I'm trying to be more positive and have a better outlook on life. I think I'm finally starting to realize that you have to take it a day at a time and understand that you can't control what's going to happen.

Basically what I'm trying to come across with is don't sweat the small stuff! You might have 10 things going on in your life right now that are stressing you out, but don't focus all your energy on those 10 things. Try to remember the little things in life that make those 10 things seem insignificant.

I hope you all have a blessed and stress free day!

I'm Back!

I decided it was time to come out of hiding! I had a lot going on in my life and I felt I needed to take a break from the blog and get myself together. So for my new post I thought it would be nice to share a positive quote with everyone, because in today's world we all need someone to be there for us, I know I have :-) Enjoy and thanks for sticking with me!

Maintenance Sucks!

Due to unforeseen technical problems beyond my control (basically the power company was playing around with the electric-over 1000 people had no power yesterday) my blog was delayed. But I'm back and I'm excited to share what I found out from Ancestry.com.

As I was digging through my mom's side of the family I discovered my poppy's father (great grandfather) had actually died of a cerebral hemorrhage. This information I had already know about because my grandfather had shared it with already. But what I discovered after this was crazy!

I found out that my great grandfather's mom (2x's great grandmother) had also died of a cerebral hemorrhage, but it didn't stop there. I was also able to find a death certificate for one of my great-grandfathers aunt's (2x's great grand aunt) that showed she too died of a cerebral hemorrhage.

So far I haven't been able to find anything else that links any other family member to 'death by cerebral hemorrhage, but then again I'm still finding my way around (when it comes to looking for records).

Below I'm going to share my 2x's great grand aunts death certificate and a photo of her, which I also found by digging a little deeper into the past.

PS: Sorry about having to make the death certificate so large it's the only way to see all the information. Also, my 2x's great grand aunt was married '4' times so her name was different at the time of her death (just to clarify).

My 2x's great grand aunt (Elizabeth Ward)

 

Hmmm...

Sometimes things need to just stay in the past. But other times it's fun to go back in time and see what the past can tell us. I was poking around my Ancestry tree again and found some more interesting info that I thought would make for a good blog tomorrow. Stay tuned and just to give you a hint it has to do with health and death. Feel free to leave guesses and comments below!

Feeling Creative

I was going through some of my old poetry. Wow what a walk down memory lane that was! I thought I would share one of the poems I wrote back in high school. Maybe I'll share more in the future. Guess you'll just have to see!

I HAD YOU

 

Your smile made everyone smile.

Your laugh made everyone laugh.

Your hugs made everyone warm.

Your food made everyone full.

Your spirit kept everyone together.

But since you're gone, so is everyone else.

The smiles are not smiles.

The laughs are not laughs.

The hugs are not warm.

The food is not filling.

Your spirit is not remembered.

But I do. I remember all of this.

And I miss it so.

You'll be in my heart.

I love you.

 

 

In memory of all those I've lost;

I will see you again!

Moving Forward

The blog below is raw and real. The text describes my feelings about certain people who will not be named and what I've seen and felt for the past 5 years. Proceed with caution:

Sooner or later you grow up. It's inevitable. It happens to everyone and depending on the person and the situation it can be easy or hard. For me I wanted to grow up fast. I couldn't wait to be done with high school, go onto college, get a job, and be on my own. But life never turns out the way you think it's going to.

I got married when I was 21. Some people thought I made a mistake or that their son made a mistake in getting married, but if I had to do it all over again I would. I don't regret the decisions I've made in my life because I love my life (I just wish my dad and poppy were here with me still). However, there are just some things I wish I could erase.

What do you do when it comes to overbearing parents? I'm not referring to mine because they've always treated me like an adult and respect boundaries when it comes to my marriage. I know that they care about me and love me to death, but they know when to butt in and when to stay out. What I'm talking about is my husband's parents lack of respect towards him as an adult.

The respect towards me and my family went out the window a long time ago, so I just shrugged it off and tried to ignore them. But when it comes to my husband and the way he's treated I can't stand by and not say or do something. The amount of pain I feel for him eats me up inside. What's worse is to have to sit by and watch them blatantly disrespect him (either to his face or behind his back).

When he tries to talk to them and let him know how he feels forget it. It just goes in one ear and out the other. One of the hardest things for me is to have to sit there and watch my mother-in-law flat out lie and say how much her son means to her and how much she loves him and misses him. It just makes my blood boil. She only misses him because he's not around to do things for her and be her little 'errand boy'. She doesn't have someone to kick around anymore and that pisses her off.

When it comes to his father and brother they're not any better. They lie right to his face and promise my husband things and then don't follow through with the promise they made. They use him just like his mother did. They all think that lying, stealing, and cheating is OK to do, newsflash it's NOT!!! What really hurt me the most of all was when my husband did have the courage to stand up to them. He stood there and asked for space and for them to back off but his words just fell on deaf ears and nothing changed.

I sat by for 4 years and kept my mouth shut. I wonder if I should have done that for so long. I was taught to respect your elders, but what do you do when you're not getting the respect back? When are you supposed to stand up for yourself? How long should you keep getting stabbed in the back and be someones punching bag? I think these questions will haunt me for a long time.

 

My husband and I are slowly picking up the pieces and putting them back together. It's not easy. Some days I wanted to give up. Some days he wanted to give up. But we supported each other and made it through the storm. I wish I could say that things are gonna be easier, but I don't know that, nobody does. I pray we'll find a silver lining in all this darkness. Only time will tell.



http://www.amazon.com/Toxic-In-Laws-Strategies-Protecting-Marriage/dp/0060507853/ref=sr_1_6?ie=UTF8&qid=1375587354&sr=8-6&keywords=toxic+parents

P.S. I recommend this book to anyone going through in-law issues. I only wish I would've found it sooner rather than later.